We all have a certain point in our lives when we are deeply engaged to our kind of people. We tend to do a lot of stuff together, share the same thoughts, interests, life situations and even dreams and aspirations. We become aware of each other’s strengths and weaknesses. We experience a sense of security and loyalty wherein, it allows us to wear our heart on our sleeves. Their problems become our own, in the same way that they had accepted our struggles as theirs, before we even realized it.
It is indeed ironic to say that our kind of people (or the ones we spend most of our time with) may be the wrong people in our lives. The thought that there is the particular need for something that will completely fill the spaces and gaps in our personality is misleading us from the real reason why we actually accept people to come into our lives.
Are we the ones who work the system? We must be aware that there are people who would not care to use us in so many ways just for their own advantage because we might lose ourselves in the end. Our own weak points make us vulnerable to iniquitous behaviors of others, like the people who come into our lives with ulterior motives. Those who have been lending their hands for years now would ask something beyond our capacity in the end. And since we are aware of the things that we are incapable of, hence our limitations, we tend to seek help to these wrong people who have this common wicked thought that beggars can’t be choosers. And when the time comes when we realize our own potentials, it is always the shoemaker’s son who always goes barefoot. We tend to return the good favors to the wrong people.
The idea that we are actually surrounded by these people is indeed hard to swallow. The trick of the trade is that, we need to know our worth, and that the worth of others is not different from ours. We will meet these kinds of people all throughout our lives and the truth is; we cannot avoid such sort of personalities. But we can definitely choose from them. Do not confuse your feelings and interests with other people. If it is not your cup of tea then do not indulge much. It is probably just a waste of everything you’ve got. Never put your eggs in one basket because it will never be worth it in the end.
Let us not spend our lives with the wrong people!